Whether it’s your inbox, your actual mailbox or a blog, spam/junk mail is everywhere. Well I am tired of all the spam and not the kind you eat (though I don’t really care for it either) that gets posted on this blog. When I came up with this concept I had every intention that it was 4 moms, not for anybody to post meaningless ads for stupid products! I must say, STOP THE SPAM!
So after years of what seemed like full-time freelance work and being able to make my own hours, I accepted a position at an office. It’s been super exciting but very exhausting. I forgot what it was like to work long, set hours. I have a new-found respect for my own mom. At the same time I understand why she did it. I was beginning to lose my identity. I was no longer me, I was just MOM. Now I’m me and also mom.
I know they are not uncommon, and we are not alone in dealing with them, but night terrors are scary for parents. Watching one unfold is horrible. You feel helpless, there’s no way to comfort or help your child and seeing them in such a chaotic state is not something any parent wants to see.
My 4-year old started having night terrors much earlier than most kids, around the age of 2 1/2. Though it’s unclear what causes them, many experts, including our pediatrician agree they could be the result of an erratic sleep schedules or any type of sleep deprivation. This would explain why hers started at 2 1/2, because it coincided with her decision to eliminate a nap. Yes, HER decision. No matter how much I tried, my daughter had a mind of her own and is stubborn and stopped napping well before any of her friends.
Once her body adjusted to not napping, the night terrors subsided for the most part. Now at 4-years of age they really only rear their ugly face when she has a super busy or out of the ordinary day. Basically, these are the days when she becomes overly tired and should take a nap, but refuses and will do everything to avoid it.
In the end that means my husband or I will be up numerous times overnight. She will be screaming, kicking, crying and thrashing about her bed. We always go in to try and comfort her, and to make sure she doesn’t hurt herself. We wait it out, until she eventually wake up. I know the experts say not to wake a child who is having a night terror but we’ve found that if we don’t wait until she is awake, she continues to have the night terrors through the night. However, once she is actually up, she tends to fall back asleep very quickly and has no recollection of what just occurred.
There really aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done. I don’t know how full-time working moms do it. I have so much respect for those women. Seriously anyone who says being a mom is easy, or isn’t that hard is lying. If they have found a way for it to be easy, please share and definitely write a book.
I look forward to my days when both kids are in school, just to be able to eat, uninterrupted at a table, to listen to any music I want and to be able to go to the grocery store and not constantly have to say “No we’re not getting that!” These are little things but the quiet of not having two kids running around crazy or screaming and fighting with one another has become my luxury. I love my kids and I love my time with them, but it’s important to have some quality “me” time. I look around and see that the house is a mess and needs to be cleaned or in my case since we just moved, unpacked and all I want is a magic wand or a fairy godmother to come in and say “abra cadabra” and it’s done. Unfortunately, my life is not a fairytale and I’m not a princess. I’m back in my reality and it’s back to being MOM.
A little about myself…
I am a wife and a stay at home mom of two beautiful daughters. I decided to start this blog as a way for moms like myself to find ideas and tidbits in one area. It’s sort of that stuff no one ever tells you about, like how to get free ice cream at Chick-Fil-A or how to visit some of the best museums in the country for free or did you know you can just buy the McDonald’s Happy Meal toys, you don’t have to buy the Happy Meal . These are things I stumbled upon by accident or learned from other moms like myself.
I also love to plan my kids birthday parties. I think it is fun to take a theme and build upon it. I like the challenge of making the cake, and having everything “go” together, from the invitations, to the decorations, to the food and favors, I want their parties to reflect who they are. Don’t get me wrong, many 1 stop party places are great and are perfect for on the go families or those who just don’t want to have to worry about anything. My daughters love those places, but they just weren’t personal enough for me. I found myself scurrying the web looking for ideas, or going to parties and taking pictures and saving ideas that I liked for future use. I had no place to showcase those ideas or parties. So my goal for Things4Moms is to be a 1 Stop Online Idea Shop 4 Moms.
All the ideas may not be mine directly, but they’ll be ideas I love or that my 4 or 1-year-old loves or would love. Along the way I’ll probably stumble upon something that’s just fun and has nothing to with party planning or going or getting something for free, but I’ll have fun sharing it.